If you are playing minecraft on ps4, ps5, xbox, or mobile editions you can still join private servers using BedrockTogether – a mobile app that automagically creates a link to the server so it shows up under the servers tab of your minecraft Title Screen.
How to connect:
1. Enter your desired server IP and port.
2. Click the “Run” button.
3. Open Minecraft and navigate to the “Friends” tab.
4. Connect to the server using the LAN tab.
5. Close the BedrockTogether app after the client has joined the server
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=pl.extollite.bedrocktogetherapp&hl=en_NZ
https://apps.apple.com/af/app/bedrocktogether/id1534593376